As we head toward the holiday time and the end of 2014, here’s something to consider for Thanksgiving and if doing any kind of New Year’s Resolution List: complete and total forgiveness – for anyone and anything that has “happened” to us in our lives so far.
I say “happened” in quotation marks because the common view of negative events or people being in our lives is that they happen to us, rather than being there to show us something about ourselves we need to fix or heal. Even though we all choose what we need to face before we come into this life, we frequently forget that we made the choice, especially when we’re challenged. Or because of our level of development and the depth of a lesson, these things seem to come from outside rather than inside.
We usually learn faster and better from negative lessons than from positive (i.e. we learn pretty quickly not to touch fire once we’ve been burned rather than when we are told not to do it…touching the fire is the negative lesson that really does its work well). So our negative lessons from people who have hurt us have more of an impact. The difficulty level depends how we look at it whether that is perceived as good or bad. (Hint: it’s all good, even if we don’t like it.)
However we take the concept of forgiveness, however we choose to forgive people – seeing them as doing things to us, or them pointing up what we need to work on within – facing (or not facing) these people and situations affects our health.
Here’s an excerpt of an article Colin Tipping recently wrote that resonates with me deeply. He is the King of Radical Forgiveness. I’ve mentioned him several times before. And I feel his is a great idea: A Bucket List of Forgiveness.
While in this article he talks about considering this list in preparation for death (whenever that comes), we’ve got that time of forced family togetherness of Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, Yule and New Year’s Eve and Day (with those resolutions) coming up so why wait? With all the energy shifts bringing in past release and new beginnings for us in the Aquarian Age, it’s a perfect time to clean the slate of anything and everything that holds us back.
So, here is Colin Tipping’s “Bucket List of Forgiveness”:
Lack of forgiveness is known to be very bad for your health. It is not so well acknowledged that it is also very bad for your death.
I don’t wish to be morbid, but this is worth considering, no matter how far away death might seem to you. After all, anyone with any sense makes a will, so why not a bucket list of those you need to forgive before you die?
Think about it.
Not only will death come more peacefully when you have forgiven everyone in your life before you die, but if you make the transition while still holding anger and resentment, you will take it with you. You will not be free of it. You will have to deal with it on the other side, and there’s no guarantee it will be any easier.
Not only will you be burdened by the crappy energy you take with you, so will the person you haven’t forgiven, assuming it mattered to them.
Any amends they might have made while you were alive are now impossible. It becomes unfinished business, and that makes it even more toxic than it was before.
So, if you want your death to be as easy and pain-free as possible, why not start the Radical Forgiveness process now and get all that toxic energy out of your body while you can? It doesn’t matter how old you are. Do it while you still have breath in your body and the mental capacity to remember who it is you need to forgive and why.
There’s much to be gained by doing all the forgiveness work you can on those who are still alive, as well as on those who are already dead. Not to mention that it is good for your health and may prevent cancer from arising in your body.
One place to start would be with your parents. I doubt whether there is a person on the planet that does not have some reason to forgive their parents, and this is no less true if they are already dead. After all, the parent/child relationship is characterized by conflict and that conflict continues to shape us long after we’ve left our parents’ house.
And obviously there are so many people we can forgive without them being related to us. If this kind of total forgiveness frees us when we get to the other side, think of what it can do for us while we’re still living.
If the Bucket List of Forgiveness becomes part of our lives now when transformation is at an all time high (meaning our success at it is well supported and more actively helped by our spiritual family), think of how powerfully that freedom would propel us into opportunities we can’t even perceive in our current mindset.
When we remove negativity from ourselves in this positive way, what’s left behind is limitless possibility.
Here is a link to Colin Tipping’s free downloads of his Radical Forgiveness Worksheets (there are several to help in varying situations). I’ve done this work and I highly recommend it as a way to get clear and alter negative energy, especially if you don’t want to confront an individual face to face.
Even if you choose not to use his method, try forgiveness as a present to yourself as we close out the year.
May we all have a happy and healthy holiday season.
With love and gratitude…